As all of you know, I'm going through a really hard time in my life right now. Among the ages old wounds I'm nursing, I'm also single for the very first time since I was 18 years old, and that's pretty freaking scary. I'm also learning for the first time in my life how to listen to myself.
I started seeing a counselor and she gave me some homework. Listen. Write it down. Go out. Meet new people. All of these are hard for me. I'm great at listening to other people and helping them with their problems; which is why I've gotten so good at NOT listening to myself. Meeting new people is altogether awkward and scary because I'm quirky and odd, and I'm not really sure who I am anymore. This whole former fatgirl thing is really a weird social experiment. So, I try to think through some of things whilst running.
Sometimes when I run, my mind is so full of things that I can't articulate them into coherent thoughts, and therefore can't actually accomplish any worthwhile thinking. But something amazing has happened the past two days: my mind is silent. Yes, I think about my to do list, my bank account, who I'm teaching today, etc.... But the things that have been eating at me have been silenced a little. Part of this recovery process is actually saying the words to another human being that I was too scared to say. Once it's out of my mind, whether it be on paper or in conversation, it loses some of its power.
It's come to my attention, through both my own reflection and the observations of others, that I have anger issues. I go from 0 to 1,000 in the blink of an eye. Not only am I under direction to write down all my volcanic eruptions, I know that I can channel that negative energy into something positive. If I'm going to be single, and not spending every waking moment that I'm not working with a partner, I'm going to spend it at the gym, or on my bike, or rock climbing, or canoeing or whatever else I can get into. I haven't taken group exercise classes since I was a teenager (except for spinning), and I figure that sounds kinda fun, too. Although, I'll admit, I suck at dancing, so Zumba may not be a great plan..... I want to hit my goal weight this year, and finally be done losing weight. I want to run my fastest marathon, and make new friends. I want to find some peace and quiet for myself. I've started to find a little silence on my road to recovery, and if I just so happen to run several hundred miles this year down that road, then so be it. As long as I can be still enough to hear it, the sound of silence just might deafen me.
I started seeing a counselor and she gave me some homework. Listen. Write it down. Go out. Meet new people. All of these are hard for me. I'm great at listening to other people and helping them with their problems; which is why I've gotten so good at NOT listening to myself. Meeting new people is altogether awkward and scary because I'm quirky and odd, and I'm not really sure who I am anymore. This whole former fatgirl thing is really a weird social experiment. So, I try to think through some of things whilst running.
Sometimes when I run, my mind is so full of things that I can't articulate them into coherent thoughts, and therefore can't actually accomplish any worthwhile thinking. But something amazing has happened the past two days: my mind is silent. Yes, I think about my to do list, my bank account, who I'm teaching today, etc.... But the things that have been eating at me have been silenced a little. Part of this recovery process is actually saying the words to another human being that I was too scared to say. Once it's out of my mind, whether it be on paper or in conversation, it loses some of its power.
It's come to my attention, through both my own reflection and the observations of others, that I have anger issues. I go from 0 to 1,000 in the blink of an eye. Not only am I under direction to write down all my volcanic eruptions, I know that I can channel that negative energy into something positive. If I'm going to be single, and not spending every waking moment that I'm not working with a partner, I'm going to spend it at the gym, or on my bike, or rock climbing, or canoeing or whatever else I can get into. I haven't taken group exercise classes since I was a teenager (except for spinning), and I figure that sounds kinda fun, too. Although, I'll admit, I suck at dancing, so Zumba may not be a great plan..... I want to hit my goal weight this year, and finally be done losing weight. I want to run my fastest marathon, and make new friends. I want to find some peace and quiet for myself. I've started to find a little silence on my road to recovery, and if I just so happen to run several hundred miles this year down that road, then so be it. As long as I can be still enough to hear it, the sound of silence just might deafen me.
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